Hello, hello Holos&Lotus community, I decided to join the initiative of my friend @damarysvibra on managing frustration.
Frustration is what invades you when you want to achieve something and you don't achieve it and I think that we have all felt that feeling of frustration at some point in our lives, in fact we have experienced it from the moment we arrived in this world and drained it through of crying that we do not stop until we achieve our goal.
And it continues to happen to us in all stages of life, for example I remember a very particular one, which does not mean that it is the only time I have felt it in my life, but I do always remember that I felt very frustrated on that occasion. , I was studying the 4th year of high school and I was watching technical drawing, a very difficult subject for me, I watched it on Mondays so it almost always frustrated me all weekend, I always had to bring a sheet prepared with a homemade labeling on vegetable leaf marked with a rapidograph and Indian ink, marking margins, the date, name of the student and the drawing that corresponded, I tell you that for me it was a weekly torture, it frustrated me enormously, I crumpled the pages, I cried, I used several at the same time , I was filled with ink, with anger and it never turned out well, I tried again and again, I noticed that when I paused and looked for help, the labeling came out very well, but I was very impatient.
What happens is that when we strive to achieve something and due to external or internal circumstances and we fail to achieve it, this sensation produces negative emotions of rejection, shame, failure, anger, rage, pride, sadness, disappointment. , disappointment, many times we even cry when we feel helpless, which prevents us from wanting to try again
There are emotions that we cannot control so we cannot help but get angry and that makes us act impulsively, but we can make frustration more flexible, take space before reacting, distance ourselves from the situation that overwhelms us, walk away, calm down and breathe deeply, give ourselves time. to process it and if it is possible to occupy our mind with something different, more relaxing, so that when we try again we will not carry the initial frustration but start with our mind blank and calm.
Be clear that when plan A fails we can resort to plan B, D, C and many more letters.
Understand that sometimes to move forward it is necessary to go back and that the path is not always linear, there are other options.
Accept that mistakes are part of the process.
Seek emotional support from family and friends, I had a friend who made me calm down and see where the error was and yes, the frustration is very strong to seek professional help.
Make more rational decisions, try to tolerate and maintain good emotional control.
Set real goals that are achievable.
If we cannot control frustration in time, we run the risk of falling into depression or exhibiting aggressive behavior.
While we gratify ourselves quickly, how difficult it is for us to tolerate the frustration of other things, now when the gratifications are not instantaneous we can make that frustration zone more flexible again and work on expanding the zone of possibilities and generating tolerance again.
Frustration can be an obstacle in our path or an opportunity to grow and learn by discovering new unexplored skills and challenges to achieve our goals.
¡Gracias por leer!
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Thanks for reading!
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