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Has accepting disrespect become a norm for you?

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Have you ever been in a situation where you paid for a thing and the vendor disrespected you? If you have, how did you deal with it? Last week, I found myself in that situation and I was livid. I made a considerably outrageous payment for something and rather than take my calls, this person chose to speak to my mother and still messed up the work.

Over the past couple of months, I have received limited support from my parents because they just believe I ought to handle some things by myself. And I have pushed myself to be able to fill in the gaps they leave off for me.

They pay for a class, I pay for my text books, transportation and every other payment involved in the schooling process. They no longer concern themselves with an allowance, they just believe I ought to be able to provide my basic needs and soon enough, they will completely remove their hands and expect me to live alone.

I accept this discipline with happiness because it could have been worse. I'm 23, unemployed and single, I could be worse off but hey, a lot of things work out and I'm making these ends meet one way or the other and moving on with my life.

I work hard for the money I spend. Yeah, it may not seem like all that because I work at my own time and sometimes at my own pace, but it's hard work nonetheless. Lately, I have to combine schoolwork, personal work and paid work everyday and it takes its toll sometimes.

Imagine how I feel when I make a payment from all this stress and then the person whose sole duty is to provide what I pay for decides to insult me by ignoring my calls and not providing what I ask for when I ask for it.

The usual pattern of payment is; I pay part, you provide, I pay the balance. I told my mother to have the person call me for the balance. I need space to practice this wickedness I preach.

In this part of the world people seem to believe that they can disrespect you by respecting a person who seemingly has more than you and you would understand. It doesn't work that way with me and it shouldn't have to work that way with anyone.

As a person who once ran a business and still sort of runs a business right now, respect is everything. Regardless of how old or young a client is, as a trader, it makes sense to show the right amount of courtesy because every client pays your bills.

Almost every young person in Nigeria has encountered this amount of disrespect. And I know this isn't how it's done in civilized parts of the world because I was treated with respect as a 14 year old in the UK. So why do we have to take shit like this here? Isn't the country hard enough already?


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